Today, I’m writing about myself. Because, even if you’ve followed me on all my social media channels, and have ever read any of my blogs, or have read the About section of this site, you’ve probably discovered that you still don’t know very much about India.

In fact, the grand total of what you’ve learned about me so far amounts to this:

  • I like to travel. I’m a vegetarian but still a dentists basically a dietician’s worst nightmare.

  • I love music. I’m the lip sync queen.

  • I am sensible with my money day to day so that I can frequently treat myself (HOPEFULLY that has come across because if it hasn’t then this blog has been a TOTAL WASTE OF TIME thus far!)

  • I don’t have any children or pets. I don’t want any children or pets.

  • I’m Black, I’m just light-skinned but still 100% Black and I live in New York.

  • As well as teaching Math to 6-12th, I’m also own a virtual staffing agency.

Not a whole lot of detail there, huh?

Well, the purpose of this post is not to fill in the gaps by giving you details like my height and my shoe size (although if you work with a leading women’s shoe brand, I’d happily give you my details over email  ). Instead I want to talk about myself from a emotional and mental point of view. And put to bed a horrible myth about women.

 

You see, I think there is an attitude out there that sucks. No it’s not political or racial although it is absolutely frightening what is happening to the world at the moment and I truly hope the madness will end soon. No, what I’m referring to is this mentality that when a woman gets to 30, she’s pretty much past it.

 

How many of these have you heard about women over 30?

  • She’s now on a race against time to have kids.

  • That’s it, she can say goodbye to decent boobs now.

  • A 30 year old in a club? Ha! Move over grandma!

  • Once you hit 30, hangovers last at least 3 days.

  • If you haven’t established a career by the time you’re in your 30s, you’ve got no chance.

  • Over 30s cannot and should not wear mini skirts, crop tops, hot pants, braids.

  • If you haven’t met the man/woman of my dreams by now, it’s probably never going to happen.

  • Once you hit 30, it’s so much harder to lose weight. You might as well make friends with your cellulite because it’s sticking around forever.

 

LIFE BEGINS AT 30

I think this mentality is disgusting. None of that’s true. And I’m about to present my case why, in fact, life actually BEGINS at 30 and any goal you set yourself is achievable.

 

CAREER GOALS

I went to university in 2007. I was 18 and graduated at age 22. I then skipped the travelling part (except for a few trips to Mexico and Bahamas) and started work. For the next five years, I changed jobs 6-10 times. Yup. I didn’t have a clue what I wanted to do. My career goal amounted to a salary target. I hadn’t considered the role I wanted to get or the job satisfaction, so perhaps it wasn’t surprising that it wasn’t until I reached 28 that my situation at work finally clicked.

 

I was working for Coca Cola as Brand Manager for Vitamin Water which meant I drove around all day to different locations around the city, gave out free “swag” and made sure our product looked good. The purpose of my job was to sweet talk managers into giving us more unpaid shelf space to showcase the brand. My job became very mundane after a while. And the days I was supposed to be at “work.” consisted of all play. I enjoy jobs that aren’t micromanaged. Most of my roles have been one that I worked remotely or by myself. Although I was good at it and made about $1500 a week. I didn’t love my job. One heartbreak later I was told to take some “time off” from the job to recover but ended up quitting and opening my own staffing firm. And despite the fact that I put my business on hold for a few months after accepting a contracted offer with Google, it really made life meaningful. Everyone would think that the name of a company makes the person. I love Google everything about it except for the project I was involved in. I was on the Indoor Maps team. Most of my day consisted of going inside various malls, stadiums and locations tracking data from about 3 different devices. Being in a mall for 4-5 hours, per-diems etc meant that my paycheck would be going to buying things I wanted just to pass the time. I was bored after one week. I thought to myself that this was going to end up just like VitaminWater. I started to miss my business I set up on my own. Almost all of the hires were from military background they didn’t really have to have any skills or special talents to be there so I felt honored that I was even chosen for the opportunity based on my own skill and interviews. I was able to meet some super cool engineers as well as experience the work life in Mountain View. I could never give that opportunity up. When I left I thought maybe we would cross paths at another time in life like when I have more technical background to actually apply or obtain a developer position within Google.

However in January 2018. I was excited about starting the New Year as a Partner Teacher with the Teachers Collaboration because I felt that my career had just begin. At 29, I’ve discovered what I’m good at, what’s important to me and where I want to end up which means I can set a path to get myself there. I also have 6 years of experience of handling issues and mistakes which makes me wiser.

At 30, you have another 35+ years of your working life to go. You’ve only experienced 1/4 of your career time so far which is nothing!

My advice to you, whether you think you are in the right career or not, is to take a step back and imagine yourself at 55 and on your way to work. What is that job you’re heading to? For me, it’s one of two: Educator/ Software Developer and CEO of a STEM Staffing Company. What do you want to be? Then, think about what you need to get there and take into consideration the fact that you have 25-ish years to do it. What experience do you need? What would the typical career path look like to get there? Start planning now and believe in yourself that you’ll make it happen.   A complete career change is possible in 30 years!

 

FINANCIAL GOALS

 

I’ve spent the most in my 20s. I can’t say I am the most skint with the coins. Well it’s not entirely surprising. When I started out working in 2012 I made 35K yearly plus a lot of overtime with a salary step to 45K after 6 months of meeting sales targets. My rent was $950 for 2 bedroom 2 bathroom. Cable, I drove a 1991 Camaro that always gave me trouble$. If you’re starting out at work, and you don’t earn a lot but you have to pay big city rent prices and it’s likely you spend 30% of your time in the office, 30% of your time in bed and the remaining 40% of your time in the pub!

You look back and think WHY didn’t I save so that I could build a deposit and get on the property ladder??! Well, even if you had saved a little when you were younger, your 30s is the time to save properly. After all, you’re likely to be earning more and you have license to be a little more sensible with your spending.

 

I’ll admit, I’ve always been good at saving. Why? Well I used to be cheap. I didn’t like spending money and when I did I’d buy cheap things. Then, overtime I grew up a little - past the Wal-Mart furniture to expensive food and wine, and trips I’ve realized that quality costs money, and I’ve finally discovered the thrill you get from buying something nice that you’ve earned by working so hard.

 

It does mean that I’ve had to get even better at saving money and thanks to buying a BMW while still having to keep my previous car since it had already depreciated in value. Unlike most people that feel like they have debt everywhere. I don’t want or have any credit cards. I’ve went through the stages of trying to build credit with small excessive cards but realized one car purchase and trade lines less those cards was the best opi on for me. I have student loan debt I want to clear that debt but I’m hoping one day they just forgive everyone. Since I know that’s not feasible. I’ve set myself a target – an amount I need to have saved to pay off a significant amount of my debt by 2020 as well as savings goals. I’ve broken that down into a monthly figure and I’ve changed the way I spend completely. I’m a girl who needs to treat herself so I’ve established a system whereby I can still buy what’s important to me, I just buy it in a way that means I spend less.  

 

BEAUTY AND WEIGHT GOALS

I’ve been skinny my whole life. There was a time when I lived in Florida where I was a bit overweight my entire life. My highest weight has been 175 while my lowest has been 110. I wouldn’t say I’ve been fat but between the Southern food like Zaxbys everyday and 2 for $20 meals both for me I would say I was overweight and unhealthy.

In an effort to change that The only time I’ve ever started to work out was in my 20s on a diet. No, actually, that’s not true. I spent every MONDAY of my 20s on a diet. And I tried every diet. I hated going to the gym. I joined a gym. I wasted my money. I clothes too small for me as an incentive. I hid money so that I could financially reward myself for weight loss. But nothing worked.

Perhaps I was too comfortable in Florida. There were too many temptations in Florida my 20s. Because, once I reached my 25s, something changed. Maybe with age, I’m better at committing to things? Maybe, I am more health conscious? Or maybe it was because I signed myself up to a challenge that I couldn’t let myself fail. When I moved back to NYC I ended up losing about 50-60 pounds. Maybe it was the food - or the green - or the stress but I don’t care because it worked.

 

In May last year, I lost. About 60 pounds and weighed in at 122. At 5ft 9, that’s a not a lot of weight for my frame. My focus was sleep so I continued to eat whatever I wanted. But soon I started to figure out what was in my food and why I shouldn’t eat it. I stopped eating meat and anything with any source of GMOS. Although I still ate seafood I can say that I felt much better. The only thing that was missing was the gym portion.

I bought a Fitbit and started to become more active because I could track it directly from my iPhone, I also started to use ClassPass. I hated going to the gym in general so having a selection of gyms, yoga studios felt better than just “gains.”

 

In May my best friend wants to do a half marathon. Running was not my thing – I’ve played basketball but I hadn’t run further than 5km before that point – but I knew that by committing to some sort of goal would help. The good thing about running is that it becomes easier the more you do so I quickly saw a significant improvement in my fitness and I got a teeny bit addicted to the buzz it gave me. Intrigued as to how many calories this exercise was burning, I synced the Map my fitness app to the app and that encouraged me to start tracking the calories I consumed.

While I didn’t become obsessed with calorie counting, I did learn masses about my calorie intake and by making a few tiny changes to what I ate each day, the weight began to fall off. (Basically I was eating too much butter. Wayyyyy too much.)

Needless to say, I lost my FitBit last year and it became way too cold for me to travel to studios I like I used to. This year I am still at a good weight but it is a healthy one and I’m the slimmest I’ve ever been. Age has nothing to do with it.

If you want to lose weight or get fit, sign up to some sort of exercise challenge which is out of your comfort zone, get a gym buddy, tell everyone you care about that you’re doing it (so that you’ll be humiliated if you pull out!) and then get started with the training. Yes it will seem a challenge a first but will get easier and you have the incentive of showing people and yourself what you can do!

Set yourself a goal today and download those two apps I mentioned!

 

LIFE GOALS

I’m going to finish with the very generic term of Life goals which are whatever you want them to be. As with all of the other goals above, take some time out to think about what you want to achieve. If it helps, imagine yourself in your 70s looking back. What would you want to have achieved? Think about the time you have to achieve that (up to 40 years!) and then set yourself some realistic goals and a plan to get there. Anything is possible.

Want to write a book? Set an end date, work out how much time you need to spend on it each week and if that’s do-able, then arm yourself with the help you need to make it happen (i.e. story writing lessons, a laptop, a quiet distraction-free place to work) and do it.

Want to swim with sharks? Work out where you need to go to do it and how much it would cost. Using my free money saving course, find out how much you can save per month and then book that trip.

Want to find happiness? Well, that’s a big one but you can take action and try this little exercise. Take a huge sheet of paper, write happiness in the middle and then around it write down the things that you THINK make you happy (or would make you happy). Then for each of those things, write down why those things make you happy. Then write how you’d do them. Pick a few of the things that you’ve written down and set yourself short term deadlines to complete them. If they are indeed important to you, you’ll make them happen and if you don’t, then go back to the sheet and do some re-working.  This obviously does not solve the huge issue of happiness but might help you gather your thoughts about what you want and need. My point is, life begins at 30 or it can begin whenever YOU are ready. I’m 29 now,  I have big dreams and I’m going achieve them.

I hope this has helped inspire you! What are your goals? If you’re in your 40s or above, the same applies! What are you working towards?

ABOUT ME

Today, I’m writing about myself. Because, even if you’ve followed me on all my social media channels, and have ever read any of my blogs, or have read the About section of this site, you’ve probably discovered that you still don’t know very much about India.

In fact, the grand total of what you’ve learned about me so far amounts to this:

  • I like to travel. I’m a vegetarian but still a dentists basically a dietician’s worst nightmare.

  • I love music. I’m the lip sync queen.

  • I am sensible with my money day to day so that I can frequently treat myself (HOPEFULLY that has come across because if it hasn’t then this blog has been a TOTAL WASTE OF TIME thus far!)

  • I don’t have any children or pets. I don’t want any children or pets.

  • I’m Black, I’m just light-skinned but still 100% Black and I live in New York.

  • As well as teaching Math to 6-12th, I’m also own a virtual staffing agency.

Not a whole lot of detail there, huh?

Well, the purpose of this post is not to fill in the gaps by giving you details like my height and my shoe size (although if you work with a leading women’s shoe brand, I’d happily give you my details over email  ). Instead I want to talk about myself from a emotional and mental point of view. And put to bed a horrible myth about women.

 

You see, I think there is an attitude out there that sucks. No it’s not political or racial although it is absolutely frightening what is happening to the world at the moment and I truly hope the madness will end soon. No, what I’m referring to is this mentality that when a woman gets to 30, she’s pretty much past it.

 

How many of these have you heard about women over 30?

  • She’s now on a race against time to have kids.

  • That’s it, she can say goodbye to decent boobs now.

  • A 30 year old in a club? Ha! Move over grandma!

  • Once you hit 30, hangovers last at least 3 days.

  • If you haven’t established a career by the time you’re in your 30s, you’ve got no chance.

  • Over 30s cannot and should not wear mini skirts, crop tops, hot pants, braids.

  • If you haven’t met the man/woman of my dreams by now, it’s probably never going to happen.

  • Once you hit 30, it’s so much harder to lose weight. You might as well make friends with your cellulite because it’s sticking around forever.

 

LIFE BEGINS AT 30

I think this mentality is disgusting. None of that’s true. And I’m about to present my case why, in fact, life actually BEGINS at 30 and any goal you set yourself is achievable.

 

CAREER GOALS

I went to university in 2007. I was 18 and graduated at age 22. I then skipped the travelling part (except for a few trips to Mexico and Bahamas) and started work. For the next five years, I changed jobs 6-10 times. I was fired a few times and other times where I just walked away. Yup. I didn’t have a clue what I wanted to do. My career goal amounted to a salary target. I hadn’t considered the role I wanted to get or the job satisfaction, so perhaps it wasn’t surprising that it wasn’t until I reached 28 that my situation at work finally clicked.

 

I was working for Coca Cola as Brand Manager for Vitamin Water which meant I drove around all day to different locations around the city, gave out free “swag” and made sure our product looked good. The purpose of my job was to sweet talk managers into giving us more unpaid shelf space to showcase the brand. My job became very mundane after a while. And the days I was supposed to be at “work.” consisted of all play. I enjoy jobs that aren’t micromanaged. Most of my roles have been one that I worked remotely or by myself. Although I was good at it and made about $1500 a week. I didn’t love my job. One heartbreak later I was told to take some “time off” from the job to recover but ended up quitting and opening my own staffing firm. And despite the fact that I put my business on hold for a few months after accepting a contracted offer with Google, it really made life meaningful. Everyone would think that the name of a company makes the person. I love Google everything about it except for the project I was involved in. I was on the Indoor Maps team. Most of my day consisted of going inside various malls, stadiums and locations tracking data from about 3 different devices. Being in a mall for 4-5 hours, per-diems etc meant that my paycheck would be going to buying things I wanted just to pass the time. I was bored after one week. I thought to myself that this was going to end up just like VitaminWater. I started to miss my business I set up on my own. Almost all of the hires were from military background they didn’t really have to have any skills or special talents to be there so I felt honored that I was even chosen for the opportunity based on my own skill and interviews. I was able to meet some super cool engineers as well as experience the work life in Mountain View. I could never give that opportunity up. When I left I thought maybe we would cross paths at another time in life like when I have more technical background to actually apply or obtain a developer position within Google.

However in January 2018. I was excited about starting the New Year as a Partner Teacher with the Teachers Collaboration because I felt that my career had just begin. At 29, I’ve discovered what I’m good at, what’s important to me and where I want to end up which means I can set a path to get myself there. I also have 6 years of experience of handling issues and mistakes which makes me wiser.

At 30, you have another 35+ years of your working life to go. You’ve only experienced 1/4 of your career time so far which is nothing!

My advice to you, whether you think you are in the right career or not, is to take a step back and imagine yourself at 55 and on your way to work. What is that job you’re heading to? For me, it’s one of two: Educator/ Software Developer and CEO of a STEM Staffing Company. What do you want to be? Then, think about what you need to get there and take into consideration the fact that you have 25-ish years to do it. What experience do you need? What would the typical career path look like to get there? Start planning now and believe in yourself that you’ll make it happen.   A complete career change is possible in 30 years!

 

FINANCIAL GOALS

 

I’ve spent the most in my 20s. I can’t say I am the most skint with the coins. Well it’s not entirely surprising. When I started out working in 2012 I made 35K yearly plus a lot of overtime with a salary step to 45K after 6 months of meeting sales targets. My rent was $950 for 2 bedroom 2 bathroom. Cable, I drove a 1991 Camaro that always gave me trouble$. If you’re starting out at work, and you don’t earn a lot but you have to pay big city rent prices and it’s likely you spend 30% of your time in the office, 30% of your time in bed and the remaining 40% of your time in the pub!

You look back and think WHY didn’t I save so that I could build a deposit and get on the property ladder??! Well, even if you had saved a little when you were younger, your 30s is the time to save properly. After all, you’re likely to be earning more and you have license to be a little more sensible with your spending.

 

I’ll admit, I’ve always been good at saving. Why? Well I used to be cheap. I didn’t like spending money and when I did I’d buy cheap things. Then, overtime I grew up a little - past the Wal-Mart furniture to expensive food and wine, and trips I’ve realized that quality costs money, and I’ve finally discovered the thrill you get from buying something nice that you’ve earned by working so hard.

 

It does mean that I’ve had to get even better at saving money and thanks to buying a BMW while still having to keep my previous car since it had already depreciated in value. Unlike most people that feel like they have debt everywhere. I don’t want or have any credit cards. I’ve went through the stages of trying to build credit with small excessive cards but realized one car purchase and trade lines less those cards was the best opi on for me. I have student loan debt I want to clear that debt but I’m hoping one day they just forgive everyone. Since I know that’s not feasible. I’ve set myself a target – an amount I need to have saved to pay off a significant amount of my debt by 2020 as well as savings goals. I’ve broken that down into a monthly figure and I’ve changed the way I spend completely. I’m a girl who needs to treat herself so I’ve established a system whereby I can still buy what’s important to me, I just buy it in a way that means I spend less.  

 

BEAUTY AND WEIGHT GOALS

I’ve been skinny my whole life. There was a time when I lived in Florida where I was a bit overweight my entire life. My highest weight has been 175 while my lowest has been 110. I wouldn’t say I’ve been fat but between the Southern food like Zaxbys everyday and 2 for $20 meals both for me I would say I was overweight and unhealthy.

In an effort to change that The only time I’ve ever started to work out was in my 20s on a diet. No, actually, that’s not true. I spent every MONDAY of my 20s on a diet. And I tried every diet. I hated going to the gym. I joined a gym. I wasted my money. I clothes too small for me as an incentive. I hid money so that I could financially reward myself for weight loss. But nothing worked.

Perhaps I was too comfortable in Florida. There were too many temptations in Florida my 20s. Because, once I reached my 25s, something changed. Maybe with age, I’m better at committing to things? Maybe, I am more health conscious? Or maybe it was because I signed myself up to a challenge that I couldn’t let myself fail. When I moved back to NYC I ended up losing about 50-60 pounds. Maybe it was the food - or the green - or the stress but I don’t care because it worked.

 

In May last year, I lost. About 60 pounds and weighed in at 122. At 5ft 9, that’s a not a lot of weight for my frame. My focus was sleep so I continued to eat whatever I wanted. But soon I started to figure out what was in my food and why I shouldn’t eat it. I stopped eating meat and anything with any source of GMOS. Although I still ate seafood I can say that I felt much better. The only thing that was missing was the gym portion.

I bought a Fitbit and started to become more active because I could track it directly from my iPhone, I also started to use ClassPass. I hated going to the gym in general so having a selection of gyms, yoga studios felt better than just “gains.”

 

In May my best friend wants to do a half marathon. Running was not my thing – I’ve played basketball but I hadn’t run further than 5km before that point – but I knew that by committing to some sort of goal would help. The good thing about running is that it becomes easier the more you do so I quickly saw a significant improvement in my fitness and I got a teeny bit addicted to the buzz it gave me. Intrigued as to how many calories this exercise was burning, I synced the Map my fitness app to the app and that encouraged me to start tracking the calories I consumed.

While I didn’t become obsessed with calorie counting, I did learn masses about my calorie intake and by making a few tiny changes to what I ate each day, the weight began to fall off. (Basically I was eating too much butter. Wayyyyy too much.)

Needless to say, I lost my FitBit last year and it became way too cold for me to travel to studios I like I used to. This year I am still at a good weight but it is a healthy one and I’m the slimmest I’ve ever been. Age has nothing to do with it.

If you want to lose weight or get fit, sign up to some sort of exercise challenge which is out of your comfort zone, get a gym buddy, tell everyone you care about that you’re doing it (so that you’ll be humiliated if you pull out!) and then get started with the training. Yes it will seem a challenge a first but will get easier and you have the incentive of showing people and yourself what you can do!

Set yourself a goal today and download those two apps I mentioned!

 

LIFE GOALS

I’m going to finish with the very generic term of Life goals which are whatever you want them to be. As with all of the other goals above, take some time out to think about what you want to achieve. If it helps, imagine yourself in your 70s looking back. What would you want to have achieved? Think about the time you have to achieve that (up to 40 years!) and then set yourself some realistic goals and a plan to get there. Anything is possible.

Want to write a book? Set an end date, work out how much time you need to spend on it each week and if that’s do-able, then arm yourself with the help you need to make it happen (i.e. story writing lessons, a laptop, a quiet distraction-free place to work) and do it.

Want to swim with sharks? Work out where you need to go to do it and how much it would cost. Using my free money saving course, find out how much you can save per month and then book that trip.

Want to find happiness? Well, that’s a big one but you can take action and try this little exercise. Take a huge sheet of paper, write happiness in the middle and then around it write down the things that you THINK make you happy (or would make you happy). Then for each of those things, write down why those things make you happy. Then write how you’d do them. Pick a few of the things that you’ve written down and set yourself short term deadlines to complete them. If they are indeed important to you, you’ll make them happen and if you don’t, then go back to the sheet and do some re-working.  This obviously does not solve the huge issue of happiness but might help you gather your thoughts about what you want and need. My point is, life begins at 30 or it can begin whenever YOU are ready. I’m 29 now,  I have big dreams and I’m going achieve them.

I hope this has helped inspire you! What are your goals? If you’re in your 40s or above, the same applies! What are you working towards?

LIFE BEGINS AT 30